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Mary Tyler Moore Quotes

Mary Tyler Moore

Mary Tyler Moore quotes: vulnerable content from the late actress.

“Having a dream is what keeps you alive.  Overcoming the challenges makes life worth living.”

“Take chances, make mistakes.  That’s how you grow.  Pain nourishes your courage.  You have to fail in order to practice being brave.”

“You might fail, you might be a wreck afterwards, but it will all be worth it.”

“You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.”

“Bravery comes from going through painful experiences.  If you’ve only had to endure tiptoeing through the tulips, then how can you be brave?  Bravery comes from overcoming.”

“Obstacles and adversity help build you.  It seasons you and toughens you up so that you can fight the good fight at work and at home.  You can’t properly do that if you aren’t prepared.”

“Worrying is a necessary part of life.”

“Whatever it is, it’s okay because it’s what it is.”

“Even if you decide what it is for yourself, don’t shoot for perfection.  There is no such thing.”

“Don’t be looking for perfection.  Don’t be short-tempered with yourself.  And you’ll be a whole lot nicer to be around with everyone else.”

“Be true to yourself.  I’m not an actress who can create a character.  I play me.”

“A human being has been given an intellect to make choices.”

“Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you’re really strangers.”

“I would surround myself with people who know what they’re doing.”

“I don’t think you should ever expect forever in anything.”

“That’s all right, you don’t have to save the world—just tiny contributions will do.  But don’t back away from it just because you think you have to give more than you are capable of giving.”

“If it weren’t for the rotten things that happen in this world we couldn’t put on the news show.  We should be grateful to all the people who do those rotten things.  We should stop them in the streets and say, ‘Thank you Mr. Mugger, thank you Mr. Thief, thank you Mr. Maniac.'”

“Well I just wanted you to know, that sometimes I get concerned about being a career woman.  I get to thinking my job is too important to me.  And I tell myself that the people I work with are just the people I work with, and not my family.  And last night I thought, ‘what is a family anyway?’  They’re just people who make you feel less alone and really loved.  And that’s what you’ve done for me.  Thank you for being my family.”

“What’s nice about the rain is you don’t feel you have to live up to anything.  Everything around you is so gray and wet and damp and dreary that you don’t feel you have to smile and percolate as you do on a sunny spring day.”

“When two people live together, there have to be compromises, simply because there are two entities that have different thoughts, different goals, different ideas, whether they are on an hourly basis or on a lifetime basis.  It’s almost mathematical.  You look at balances—the checks and balances.”

“I knew at a very early age what I wanted to do.  Some people refer to it as indulging in my instincts and artistic bent.  I call it just showing off, which was what I did from about three years of age on.”

“Adolescence has such a negative connotation and it shouldn’t.  It’s experimentation, it’s being unsure, no preconceived notions.  Maybe in adopting an adolescent attitude you then take on the look of a young person.”

“My grandfather once said, having watched me one entire afternoon, prancing and leaping and cavorting, ‘This child will either end up on stage or in jail.’  Fortunately, I took the easy route.”

“Looking back on it, I realize that I have always chosen work that challenges me, because if I don’t go in to work a little scared, I don’t have any interest in it.”

“I’ve had the fame and the joy of getting laughter.  Those are gifts.”

“I’m an experienced woman; I’ve been around.  Well, all right, I might not have been around, but I’ve been… nearby.”

“I’ve always been independent.  I’ve always had courage.  But I didn’t always own my diabetes.”

“Chronic disease, like a troublesome relative, is something you can learn to manage but never quite escape.”

“There are certain things about me that I will never tell to anyone because I am a very private person.  But basically, what you see is who I am.  I’m independent, I do like to be liked, I do look for the good side of life and people.  I’m positive, I’m disciplined, I like my life in order, and I’m neat as a pin.”

“Throughout most of my life I’ve had very few friends.  Probably none with whom I would share those dark, ugly moments.  I never really allowed anybody to get to know me.  There was something in me that said, ‘If you share your darkest moments, your saddest moments with people, you’re burdening them.’  I now know that that gives them an open door to do the same with you, and so it’s a gift, to be open enough to say, ‘I really feel rotten and here’s why.’”

“There is a dark side.  I tend not to be as optimistic as Mary Richards.  I have an anger in me that I carry from my childhood experiences.  I expect a lot of myself and I’m not too kind to myself.”

“Being able to come out and talk honestly about my drinking problem gave a lot of people the opportunity to look at themselves carefully and say, ‘Hey, yes I look good, my clothes are nice and I’m warm and delightful, but I’m also an alcoholic.'”

“I live in a kind of controlled awareness.  I wouldn’t call it fear, but it’s an awareness.  I know I have a responsibility to behave in a certain way.  I’m able to do that.”

“My autobiography, After All, recounts both my acting triumphs and struggles, including diabetes, alcoholism and tragic family deaths.  That is part of what writing the book is about.  Showing other people that you can have faults and weaknesses and pain, and still go on.  I’ve gotten gratifying feedback from women like myself who denied their alcoholism for so long because they were so ladylike and all-American.  In my admission, they were free to take a long look at themselves.”

“It’s none of my business what other people think of me.”

“A friend will give you immediate feedback and that will be that friend’s opinion.  An analyst often remains quiet and you hear what you’ve said and you gain your own insight.”

“I go to an analyst not because I need to but because I choose to and maybe that’s the difference.  I don’t think I have any huge neurosis, but I have questions for which I seek if not answers at least a guidance toward the answers.”

“I don’t think I would want to go through so many dramatic changes in my life without somebody who knows what he’s talking about, at least listening to me and giving me the feeling that what I’m doing is all right.”

“But I’m very happy with my life the way it has been turning out.  A little time in the country, a little time with the animals and working on behalf of them.”

“I would just like to continue doing what I’ve been doing.  So if I can keep doing that, I’ll be a very happy person.”

“I am broadening my horizons and just being curious.  Having a little fun with life as opposed to simply concentrating on work.  This much I know.”

“Three things have helped me successfully go through the ordeals of life: an understanding husband, a good analyst, and millions of dollars.”

“This has been a wonderful life, absolutely terrific.  There are very few things that I would go back and do differently… if I had that control.”

“You truly have to make the very best of what you’ve got.  We all do.”

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