Just the tip: stop sayin’ sorry. Catch yourself in the act, pivot, and instead of, “Shoot, I already have plans – sorry!” say, “Thanks for thinking of me. There’s no one I’d rather get white girl wasted with. I do have plans that night though. How’s next weekend look?”
That’s just an example. But same goes for all sorrys.
“Sorry the house is such a mess,” could be, “Crib looks like a two-tooth meth head lives inside, but c’mon in. You’re the only one who won’t judge me – and for that, I’m grateful. Now watch out for dirty needles.”
Why do this?
Apologizing unnecessarily is a bad habit. It’s weak. Negative. Makes you feel bad. And… lets you off the hook. Like, instead of showing up late, and sayin’ sorry, how ’bout leavin’ earlier?
It’s way more millionaire. Like, just do the right thing. And on the rare occasion you still feel the need to apologize, flip it into a positive, empowering interaction.